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Self-Reliance
SELF-RELIANCE The concept is not about doing everything yourself or being financially independent. It certainly is not about shouldering every...
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Cherry Blossoms
CHERRY BLOSSOMS With the Road Rage incident still reverberating in my mind, I choose to shift my focus this week...
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Road Rage up close and personal
On Friday morning, driving back from town on the R39, just past the prison, I overtook a truck safely, quickly...
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Harmony
ACCEPTANCE SURRENDER HARMONY Harmony As we work through the steps of Acceptance and Surrender the outcome we want to achieve...
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Surrender (Part 2)
AEEPTANCE SURRENDER HARMONY Surrender (Part 2) The ‘work’ of surrendering is the process of allowing all the parts of my...
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Surrender (Part 1)
ACCEPTANCE SURRENDER HARMONY Surrender (Part 1) Continuing from the process of Acceptance…. the next step is understanding what Surrender means....
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Acceptance (Part 3)
Acceptance (Part 3) ACCEPTANCE SURRENDER HARMONY In this last segment of the process of ACCEPTANCE I would like to touch...
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Acceptance (Part 2)
Acceptance (Part 2) ACCEPTANCE SURRENDER HARMONY Talking to a professional is confidential and there is no judgment. Feeling safe to...
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ACCEPTANCE SURRENDER HARMONY
Dear Reader Apologies for my long absence. Life….. and of course, may I join in blaming load shedding – Eischcom!...
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Words
My saving Grace in 2011 came with the opportunity to write a weekly column for a local newspaper. In the...
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Life Potholes
Further to my ‘rant’ last week, I came across this piece published some years ago. Author unknown. · I walk...
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Landscape of Potholes
“We nearly died!” was what we kept repeating this day. Pouring rain – yet the level of irresponsible individuals still...
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Out of Control
Anxiety and depression is directly linked to the level of control we believe we have in our lives. Many struggle...
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The Value of Choice
This morning I woke up to bird song. Savouring the lull of truck traffic for a few minutes, all I...
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Your Life as a movie
Your life as a movie (with God as the director) Going through tough times and finding yourself in the eye...
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Removing the Stigma
Every week I meet new clients and have the privilege to work with a wide spectrum of mental health struggles....
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Determination despite Disability
Ten years ago, in the month of Blind Awareness October, my nephew (then 13) was diagnosed with Stargardt disease. What...
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In the NOW
In the NOW Getting it all together, one part and then another, to finally get to the long awaited, much...
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Heritage Day 2022
Many put in a lot of effort to dress up on Saturday and it warmed my heart. Heritage day, we...
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Digging for God
(Happy 86th birthday Ma) This time of year, most of us get the ‘green fingers’ inspiration. To nurture seeds or...
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Ageing and Mental Health
What and how we feed our minds is our choice and our responsibility from the time when we are allowed...
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Indifference
The opposite of love is not hate but INDIFFERENCE. “Thou shalt not stand idly by….” We need to participate and...
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The Caterpillar
There is the story about a caterpillar who lived a comfortable life with an abundance of food in a beautiful...
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The Weight of Fear
We are all afraid of feeling pain – physically – emotionally – mentally – spiritually. The human spirit however is...
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Celebrating Women
Today we celebrate the women who had the courage to stand tall and strongand fight for Women’s rights. Today the...
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Living Vicariously
Sharing the joy whole-heartedly with a person who has the good fortune ofowning what we can only dream about, is...
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The Light Bulb Moment
In the midst of all your fears, pain and sadness, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice...
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Brain Chemistry and internal Dialogue
We can change our biology/health by what we think and what we feel. The concept according to Dr Deepak Chopra...
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Forgiveness
In order to get past a trauma, we need to forgive whoever is responsible. It is much easier said than...
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My Sorrow – My Teacher
One month short of 88 is considered a long life. The loss of an old parent, regardless of the fact...
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A Drop in the Ocean
Instead of feeling small and powerless, each one of us has the choice of what we focus on and what...
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Twinkle Twinkle
Doubting that you are loved or believing that you are not worthy of love is something most of us can...
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The Great Hunger
Sir Laurens van der Post once wrote: “There is the Great Hunger and then there is the Little Hunger. The...
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Mental Health
A talk show topic on the radio raised the question: ‘what is your ultimate red flag’ when getting to know...
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Low Self-Esteem
My own story in this regard began at the hand of my grade 7 class teacher and headmaster who most...
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Is this The End?
Every person’s HIGHEST need is to feel validated and accepted for who they really are. There is a process of...
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What is Happiness?
Most of us future project happiness in that we believe: “when this happens or that comes about THEN I will...
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Today is a Gift
The willingness to let go of any expectations you may have regarding how your life should be is to master...
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Light up – Shine!
Human Rights Day should remind us just how much suffering exists in this world. To motivate each one of us...
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Beauty within the Beast
The war in Ukraine settled like a beastly depression in the pit of my stomach this past week. Seeing the...
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Shedding my Skin
Turning 60 has been playing on my mind quite a lot – truth be told – even though most people...
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Just for Today
Even though I teach this concept to all my clients, I often have to remind myself to practice what I...
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Finding my Purpose
Many years ago, when I started working with clients as a Life Coach/Therapist, a lady asked me to help her...
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Stress Buster
The Stress Buster – Transcendental Meditation Many think this is a strange religious practise. It is not. Scientifically researched and...
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Sorrow
The concept ‘in the blink of an eye everything changed’, is a reminder to us all to live more mindfully....
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The Balance of Happiness and Sadness
With a tendency to be melancholic, the current state of affairs of our beautiful country, does not help to uplift...
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Mindfulness
Many of us are yearning for that feeling of calmness and safety. After the last two years of uncertainty, there...
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Vulnerability
Finding the way back to ourselves and one another requires language and the grounded confidence to both tell our story...
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Loss of Self
Trying to be the person you think you are supposed to be by comparison to others or criticism from those...
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Numbing – to avoid feeling it
There are many forms of numbing that develop into addiction behaviours. It does not need to be alcohol or drugs,...
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Dance for Life
Recently I have been debating the big questions yet again. Do we give up on this country and abandon ship?...
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Masks
Natural human insecurities, self-doubt and with our individual unique personality characteristics, we all create masks in order to manage in...
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End of Year Burnout
Despite the endurance test Covid has subjected us to, it seems that the last few months of 2021 are asking...
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The Inner Voice
Research shows that our inner voice is created in early childhood by what we hear repeatedly from our primary caregivers....
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The Voice from my Heart
Fond memories of years gone by on our annual pilgrimage this time of year, to the KZN South Coast, pre...
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Grief Trauma
The word trauma (shock) is certainly applicable to so many situations and experiences, especially in recent time. Everyone has been...
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Blossoming from Within
The art of taking care of orchids had eluded me so far. Time after time I watch as they perished...
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New Dawn – New Day
The ancient cultures lived closely connected to the rhythm of nature and with awareness and responsibility to the earths’ environmental...
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Digging for God
Digging for God (honouring my mother Engela Dedekind who turns 85 today!) This time of year, most of us get...
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Sow the seeds of Spring
COVID has literally shaken our foundations regarding everything that we used to take for granted as being normal. After the...
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Living on Autopilot
Typically our daily routines are done unconsciously, especially if we do many things at the same time every day. However,...
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Agree to Disagree
The ongoing debate (radical opinions) regarding this Covid Virus and the Vaccine is driving me around the bend! Who knows...
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Light Bulb Moment
In the midst of all this uncertainty and fear mongering on social media, I have become aware of a constant...
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Self Care
Women’s day 2021 – I present you with a gift! Calling on all women to reflect and answer truthfully: “Where...
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Trauma Response
We all carry some form of trauma from experiences in our past. The inability to receive or ask for support...
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Depression
The downward spiral of depression usually creeps up on us slowly. Most of us simply think we are ‘currently not...
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Unity
Unity brings Hope On this Mandela day let us reflect on the principals he stood for and how we should...
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Finding the light in the darkness
The COVID fatigue that has set in is unchartered territory. Beginning of January 2020 it was far-far away in China...
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It is the WHY
When we are young, we tend to view life as a beginning, middle and then some kind of resolution in...
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Embracing Winter
This time of year on the Highveld can be really beautiful. The days are milder and the light takes on...
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Reserve Judgement
There are always three sides to every story. The primary – the secondary and the non-vested outsiders’ point of view....
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I N T E G R I T Y – H O N E S T Y – R E S P E C T
We as parents are the primary influence on our children. Formal education and Life can teach many things but the...
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Canopy of Stars within us
My daughter recently celebrated her birthday with some friends at Spur. They played a game where each person had to...
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Liefdes Risiko
Kinders dink die hele wêreld draai om hulle. Hulle het geen idee dat niemand perfek is nie. Soos ons bewus...
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Whom do you need to forgive today
Synchronicity is like little unexpected gifts surprising me. Just when you needed it – that forwarded e-mail lands in your...
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Self-Forgiveness
Guilt is a wasted emotion as it does not help the person that you feel guilty about and it certainly...
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Ending this Life
When a family member or friend commits suicide, the entire family/friend circle and community is plunged into confusion and grief....
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Rupture and Repair
The art of communications are best learnt by example. We will come across many individuals and situations that trigger reactions...
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A Meteor Strike
Recently, I temporarily lost my perceived solid and balanced footing. A previously fiercely denied reality smashed me into my consciousness...
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My Brother My Teacher
My heart aches with longing for you today – ten years ago you left us, my brother, my friend. I...
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The Peace Dove
The Peace Dove On the Highveld we have a multitude of doves – all day long we hear their sounds...
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Beyond the Grey
Waking up to a thick full cloud cover is not our African expected weather norm. Looking out of the window...
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Happily Ever After…
Do you still dream about finding the One? Perhaps your marriage started out happy? What happened? Sometimes we may feel...
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Shaken not stirred!
Who has not felt that build-up of panic? All around us we see (and hear) behaviour of out of control...
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Validation
Do you feel taken for granted? Is that sparkle in the eye no more? We need validation in a relationship/marriage...
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Vir Altyd
In ons besige lewens styl skeep ons partykeer die mees belangrikste verhoudings af. Stadig begin ons ongelukkig voel soos die...
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Sorrow Unmasked
Grief has no time line. This year will be ten years and the loss remains unchanged. It took me two...
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Kosmos Tyd
In die stilte van my hart hoor ek die droe herfs blare dwarrel. Die hoeveld weer is heerlik hierdie tyd...
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The Year 2022
Making New Year’s resolutions has never been something I put time and effort into. However with this auspicious occasion I...
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Symbols of Hope
Happy Valentine’s day! In my circle you would find both sides of the spectrum. Those who refuse to acknowledge anything...
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Don’t Worry ….. Be Happy
Even though this is a rather irritating song and not to mention the music video! There is something to be...
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Dare to live your best life!
A new year holds so much promise with opportunity and renewed intention. Last year prepared us to be tougher, have...
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BE EXTRA-ORDINARY
Even though it was a lifetime ago, I remember my first year in high school so very well. I grew...
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